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Everyday affairs we are involved in and everyday situations we face while we are living the time of our life, yes TWENTIES feeling most young, strong, beautiful and think of ourselves as mature than teenagers but not yet as fully adults!

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September 2015

Jealousy..

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I believe jealousy is an emotional reaction, a part of behaviour which is why it is very challenging to tackle it . It just ‘happens’ sometimes like a random quick thought, over something so minor maybe that you don’t even realise that you are being jealous. (And Quite often when we are in our twenties Because we still are in the phase of becoming PROPER ADULTS).

For Example:

One can be jealous of someone’s some expensive/unique possession

Beauty

Intelligence

Personality

Family Life

Love life etc

And this feeling is most disastrous of all the other negative ones probably. It leads to anxiety, feeling of discontent & under-accomplished, complexes and causes damage to self confidence and relationships etc.

To be honest few years back I started getting jealous (being a normal human being) and started thinking if I am and someone else is working equally or I am working more on a course/subject at university then how can he/she can be rewarded and appreciated more than me even when everybody can tell I did it great too. Ah well. I just wanted to share how I tackled that because it really helped me pull through it. I till now feel so satisfied with everything I have and believe I just need to work hard and pray for what I don’t .

1.I just switched to this concept of ENVY from jealousy and started thinking that “yes other person has this special thing/blessing, I wish I would too someday”.

2.I started counting my blessings and thinking about them more often which helped me feeling grateful, lucky and blessed all the time.

3.The last but most effective was whenever I felt even a bit of jealous, I started reciting/wishing Masha’Allah ( What Allah willed) and BarakAllahu feek (may Allah Bless you)  because that made me remember always that the person is blessed by God, Who has blessed me too with too much and can bless me with this too.

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Changes!

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Hundred of changes hit us when we are in our twenties which is why being in twenties is not easy & has a life lasting effect overall.

==>You get Graduated which leads to you feeling all accomplished yet really sad as well. Even the thought of finishing university gives you mini heart attacks because you know the time has come when you can’t run from responsibilities anymore saying “I have a quiz tomorrow” or “I am tired because it was hectic today at university”. ( because life really has some more important things to throw at us than maintaining our attendance at university above 75%)

==>You lose People, well not actually lose them but you see them less often & friends’ time shrinks to meeting up once a month only. ( and slowly you will find it absolutely normal as we are so flexible to adaptation when in our twenties. Not rigid at all. We move on. We get over heartbreaks. We look forward to improve)

==>You start your first job/internship which is not a very pleasurable experience for many of us. New workplace, new people, new routine, high expectations, less money. (You actually start thinking that you are the only one in this whole wide word who’s getting paid THE LOWEST.)

==>You get married. In many of the Asian countries, yes  you definitely have to get married in your twenties which is the most prominent & life changing “CHANGE”. This change brings along a lot more responsibilities & I don’t need to mention them.

All I can say is HAPPY CHANGING!                                                                                                           Keep changing because change means ‘growth’ & really what a boring life would it be without any change?

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